Finding the Light: How to Stay Positive in Difficult Times

Finding the Light: How to Stay Positive in Difficult Times

I guess I should start this by telling you who I am. Surprise! I’m not McKenzie! My name is Lauren and I am the blogger behind Glitter & Grandeur – a lifestyle blog spreading sparkle to inspire others in living a happy, positive life - with some theatre tips and tricks thrown in for good measure. I just got my Masters of Music in Musical Theatre degree so I can’t resist writing about that occasionally. But who could blame me, right? Right.

What else should you know about me? I am an avid coffee and wine drinker – not at the same time, that would be gross. I don’t function without caffeine and they say a glass of wine a day keeps the doctor away. Who am I to tell them otherwise?

I have seen many doctors over the course of 2016. That is actually why I am sharing this blog post today. I did not see myself becoming a blogger before I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease called HSP-Vasculitis. Glitter & Grandeur was born because of my desire to spread awareness for the disease and to help others find positivity in the worst circumstances. So anyway, that is what I am here to share with you today. Pour a cup of coffee, wine, or whatever you like to drink and come on this journey with me. 
It is so hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel – especially when you feel like you have been trudging through the tunnel for a long time.
How do you find the light? 
How do you turn a bad situation into a positive one?

It’s tough but I’m going to share my tips and experiences with you. I promise it is possible!

Count your blessings – no matter how small

For the full story of my journey with vasculitis click here ( but for now I’ll keep it short. It took almost 2 months to find a doctor to treat me when I first got sick. After that, it took almost another month to diagnose me. It was difficult not to get depressed. It’s no fun to test for all these diseases only to hear that each test was negative so you have to test for more. I had to teach myself how to consider each negative test a blessing and be grateful for it. Each one was another scary disease that I didn’t have. We still didn’t know what I did have but we were narrowing the search.

The same applies for everyday life. If you don’t get something you have been working for, look at it as something that wasn’t meant to be. It is a path you weren’t supposed to take – so now you won’t spend more of your time on it and move on to something bigger and better. Take your initial reaction to a negative situation and flip it on its end to find the positivity.

Example: You didn’t get the job. Initially, you might think “How will I pay my bills? Will I ever get a new job?” etc. Instead, think “I wasn’t meant to work for them at this time. At least one more person in the industry knows who I am. I made a new connection. This was a practice run. I learned ___, ____, and ____ from this experience and can use these lessons to improve for the next time.”

Take time for yourself

This was one of the biggest lessons I had to learn. I am a very busy person. I don’t like to be lazy for more than one day in a row. I always have to be doing something productive. Seriously, I am always multi-tasking.

When you are going through a tough time, you have to take time to relax and do something for yourself. My thing was bubble baths. I love lighting a candle and soaking in a bubble bath with a good book and a glass of wine. If it makes you happy – do it.  Have some alone time to process what you are going through. Don’t dwell on it. Don’t make it a pity party - those are only allowed occasionally (I’ll get there next). Take this time to focus on the positive things. If that’s too hard, use the time to escape. Immerse yourself in a book or have a Netflix binge, go see a show – anything to get your mind off your current situation and reset.

Let yourself feel

Let yourself be sad or angry every once in a while – not all the time, but, occasionally, it can be beneficial. A good cry is healthy, in moderation. I found it was helpful to allow myself an hour to be sad after a disappointing doctor’s appointment or test result. This let me get the negativity out of my system and wallow in the fear and sadness for a bit without letting it take over my life. Make sure to do something to make you happy afterward. Let yourself cry but then have a friend pick you up to hang out afterward. Dwelling on the sadness will only make you feel worse. Only do it for a minimal amount of time.

Spend time with your loved ones

It is very easy to cut yourself off from friends and family when you are going through a hard time. Let them help and support you. They have your best interests at heart. Let them know if there is a topic to avoid – they will listen. They are there for you to lean on – let them hold you up. They can also be a good distraction from all the negativity.

Well, those are my tips for finding happiness. When life gets hard, it is extremely difficult to stay happy – but it is possible! Make sure to click over to Glitter & Grandeur to see more tips for positivity and motivation! Feel free to contact me any time for advice or a listening ear! I’m here for all of you!
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If you want to share your story with others, feel free to contact me (McKenzie at My Darling Catastrophe) and I would love to work with you - until then, Merry Christmas!

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