When the Caring no Longer Matters

Have you ever cared about someone so much only to find out that the feelings were not entirely too mutual? Now I'm not saying that because you care more about someone they do not care at all, because I guarantee they do. The caring coming from both of you is only different; you care on a deeper level and they care on the surface, as your friend. It is one of the hardest things for any logical human to grasp and even more difficult to move past. It is one thing that will truly eat you alive if you allow it and leave you in limbo about what to do to fix it completely.

So how do you move past it? How do you, in a split second, drop all of your deepest feelings for this person and suddenly start caring from the surface level? You don't. It is unfair to you to be expected to change these things so quickly and anyone who doesn't understand how difficult it is to get over has never experienced it on their own. You want more than anything to figure out a way to change it and make it better but that is the harsh truth, you cannot change it. Understanding that harsh truth is the only way you will ever be able to move past it.

You can choose to pick through your brain every single day coming up with unrealistic solutions to make it all better but the sooner you realize that none of them will work, the easier it will all be on you. It is important to decide RIGHT NOW that you cannot change the way someone else sees the situation and you cannot fix it unless they decide that is something they want to face.

You move past it by realizing you cannot change the way others feel. You have to promise me that you will not blame yourself and that you know you deserve someone who cares just as much as you do; on a deeper level. You have to promise me that you will get past this stronger and better than ever and learn from it instead of allowing it to bring you down.

Let's move past this together, and stop trying to change it.

xo McKenzie - My Darling Catastrophe

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